Sooo, how'd it go???
It's the end of one month and the beginning of another ( yay!), which means the end of the first month of opportunities to practice doing what makes you feel happy, healthy and most like YOU.
After working with hundreds of kids and adults both as a teacher, coach and entrepreneur, how people feel physically and mentally always comes down to the foundation or habits they've laid and cultivated. The pillars of most people's self-care lies in building on the habits or areas I've listed and numbered below.
These are a starting point and within each of the areas and skills I listed there are more specific actions and skills you can focus on that can get you closer to YOUR INDIVIDUAL and PERSONAL GOALS. For example, I am often asked " what do I need to do to lose weight quickly and safely?" The skills that will get you the most bang for your buck in the food and nourishment area if weight loss or fat loss are a goal are :
3- 4 meals a day with no snacks in between, recognizing and mastering your hunger, tracking or being mindful of treats and sweets, eating mostly whole foods and minimizing liquid calories. These skills are tried and true and are a fantastic guideline no matter what type of food you eat, and they're backed by science and happy past clients ( more important to me than anything else!)
Weight loss not your goal? No problem. The cool thing about self-care is YOU MAKE THE RULES.
The point is everyone starts somewhere and if this YOUR TIME to start again, for the last time with fierce focus and determination, this is what you do.
Figure out which area is most important for YOU. Rate the areas below in order of importance and priority for you personally, with number 1 being the one you KNOW will have the biggest positive impact on how you feel and 6 being the area that needs the least amount of attention.
My rating of the things below looks like this :
6. stress management/prevention
I don't have a lot of stress management or prevention because of the order in which I do the things above. One area feeds the others positively and if it's not, I know something is out of wack and I'm focusing on the wrong areas!
1. Which area is it most important for you to focus on FIRST?
2. What areas will allow you to feel the biggest progress, positive effects or visible results of and what can you do to start?
Then go through each of the areas below and rate how you feel you are doing on a scale of 1-10 in that area. Read the questions and ask yourself honestly where am I on a scale of 1-10 with this. 1 being you never do it, hate that I'm asking about it and want it to go away. 10 being you are NAILING IT and feel like a glitter sprinkling ninja at it.This isn't about judging yourself or feeling bad if you're number isn't what you think it should be.
It's only about having a starting point and never looking back.
After rating how well you are doing in each section, take some time to answer the following questions for each area.
What has to happen ( what do you need to start doing or stop doing ) for that number to go up? For you to feel like an ass kicking ninja at taking care of yourself.
Who do you need to have around you, supporting you, guiding you or cheering you on and WHO do you need to STOP spending time with?
What information, resources or support do you already have that you can start using more consistently?
What information, resources or support do you need to seek out and dive into?
SKILLS/HABITS of KICK ASS SELF-CARE
How's your overall mindset about life? Yourself? Your health and happiness? Your ability to face and overcome challenges? Are you clear on your current priorities, the actions needed to make progress on them and do you have a game plan and way of dealing with challenges that you feel good about?
On a scale of 1-10 where are you and why?
2. MOVEMENT/BODY IMAGE/PERFORMANCE
How do you feel in your body, about your body and what you can do with it? On a scale of 1-10 where are you and why?
How do you feel about your relationship with food, eating and how you're nourishing and supporting your body and mind with food? On a scale of 1-10 where are you and why?
What do you need to learn, do more consistently or get help with to make this like pressing an easy button?
How are you doing at setting boundaries, sticking to your priorities and your values and preventing things out of your control from breaking you down? On a scale of 1-10 where are you and why? What needs to happen for you to feel less stress, focus on what you can control and prevent more stress in the upcoming month?
How much rest are you getting and is it quality rest? On a scale of 1-10 how rested and rejuvenated do you feel when wake up in the morning? What has to happen or stop happening ( either before bed, during the night, or during the day) to help you feel rested?
What are you doing that you are excited by, enjoy, have fun doing and make time for simply because it brings you joy? Alone, with others, your kids, your spouse, your friends, it doesn't matter. On a scale of 1-10 how are you doing in the fun,excitement and joy department? What feeds your soul in a I can't stop grinning kind of way and are you making time for those things?
It's never too late to begin again with clearer priorities and more intentional actions. NEVER. EVERYTHING can be learned, practiced and tweaked so come the end of February, you are celebrating and skipping around happily and excited to tackle a new set of goals!
Take all this information and make it your blueprint, roadmap, and guideline for success and the actions you take for the next month.
Schedule times and appointments with yourself to MAKE WHAT MATTERS TO YOU HAPPEN.
If you need guidance, support or someone reminding you that this is not only possible but can show you the HOW to make it happen, I'm here and excited to speak with you. Send me an email at firstname.lastname@example.org, get in touch with me via fb messenger, or schedule an appointment by clicking here and let's have a conversation. :)
I offer multiple levels of support and guidance ( from 1 day workshops to weeks and months of guidance, support and check ins) and would love to speak to you if your self-care game needs some cpr and you're ready to put a plan in place that works and follow through with it. :)
I look forward to speaking with you.
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